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Confessions of a Babybook-Challenged-Mom

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The lead character in the musical, Oliver sings:

Who will buy this beautiful morning
and put it in a box for me?
So I can see it at my leisure,
whenever things go wrong.
And I can keep it as a treasure
to last my whole life long?"

I failed my children in baby-booking. I did.  I just stunk at it.  Their entire lives, the guilt of the knowledge that I had not filled out the dates on the teeth-cutting-arrival charts gnawed at me relentlessly.  Pages with the words paste photo here nakedly jeered at me, taunting my inability to create a wondrously meaningful book for posterity.

It wasn't that I didn't have photos to paste.  It wasn't that I didn't delight at the clink of the spoon on a newly-emerged tooth or want to remember every single, tiny moment of their first days.  I saved everything for each of my children from the second I knew they were coming. It was almost a sickness, induced, I fear, by having a parent who saved nothing.  We took untold thousands of photos of these 5 incredible children. They were also often undeveloped for a really long time

But somehow, I just didn't do well at putting things in their books.  I think my perfectionistic tendancies (aka my all-or-nothing sickness) interferred. "Today I must focus entirely on the babybook and fill in each line and glue the proper photos as directed," was my heart's desire, but didn't happen, couldn't happen, because life was happening.  When you are deeply involved in your husband's ministry, right at his side AND almost annually producing a  new human being, leisure time to cut and paste and record gets put on the back burner – or in my case, books safely tucked into their original boxes, high on a closet shelf.

The other day my daughter Stephanie kind of snickered that when I'd presented her baby book to her there was nothing in it.  I guess I thought maybe "the thought" would count.  "Yeah-there is nothing there, but look at this beautiful book I was thinking about fixing up for you!?"  Stephanie has Gemma's babybook close by, on top of the television armoire and is a really good baby-booker.  She obviously did not inherit this from me.

But momentos and keepsakes?  Oh, I kept them.  I kept the baby advertising magazines from 1979, 82, 83, 84, and 1986 so they could know what having a baby "looked like" when they were born.  I retained ticket stubs and mimeographed school programs.  There were hastily ripped-out Family Circus cartoons that reminded me of my own crew ALONG with newspaper clippings of letters to the editor I had encouraged my kids to write.  I kept Mother's Day's cards (I have a lot of unredeemed homemade coupons I'd like to cash in on now!) and "I'm sorry" notes both from and to me.  Our annual family Valentine's Day love letters to each other filled decorated cereal boxes.  I kept report cards and test scores and Sunday School papers and snippets of hair.

But I didn't keep baby books well.  Not at all.

Recently, Tredessa and Stormie helped me go through totes and totes of keepsakes.  Our whole family's lives were contained in them.  We read their stories and laughed until we cried. I put aside love letters between Dave and I for another day and started a collection of favorite letters from my parents because someday those will be all I have to hold close.  We threw away report cards with grades we chose not to recall and saved only the cards which told the truth of how delightful and perfect my children are.  We threw away sad junk and chose the treasures of our lives which will become memories we hold close.

I saved a bunch of things for a project I am working on.  I am creating something of a "Chronicles of the Dave & Jeanie Rhoades Family,"  so I need material.  And I am not lacking.  It is probably 20 volumes with photos and special momentos and written memories, by now.

But there was a lot left over.  So I decided to give my kids each a big, big bag of their stuff, their history, their past.  Because really, it is in adulthood that we start to appreciate and relish each "scrap" of our lives.  Maturity brings a reverence for the past in a strong way, causing us to realize how all the little tidbits carefully glued into a scrapbook or baby book or stored in a dusty box are really the materials that mirror the essence of us.

Some one else may look at our things and wonder why we are keeping them, but we can look at them, just as I have often looked at my mother's crumbling and deteriorating childhood scrapbook, and see ourselves in the reflection of it.  And we will hold on to those things as long as we are able, because they are our history, our beginnings – the story we will tell and pass on, the legacy we will leave.

So – my kids each got this giant, colorful bag of stuff with a big bow on it and a letter from me – an "apology" of sorts.  They didn't get a well-put-together baby book.  I failed at baby-booking. But they got the treasures I safeguarded while we were creating the histories they have.  They got some scraps of this and that that prove that I love them with my whole heart – baby book completed or not.

Now you know for sure – I wasn't a perfect mom…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF: Keep only the chosen treasure.  Throw everything else away.

NOTE TO MY KIDS:  I got lots of glue sticks at a back-to-school clearance sale.  Wanna glue your own stuff in your baby books???

Pictured: Dave and "the tribe" June 1987.  L – R are Stormie (1), Rocky (2 1/2), Tara (8), Stephanie (5), and Tredessa (4)

Hunter’s Fire truck Cake

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Tara called one night while I was watching Ace of Cakes (www.charmcitycakes.com)  to tell me to be thinking about Hunter's birthday cake.  They were planning a "wheels" theme so all the little tykes could bring their Big Wheels or trikes, or skateboards or bicycles to this little area at their local park and "wheel around."  The party would culminate in a visit to the local fire house situated near the park where the firemen had told her the kids could climb around on a fire truck – great photo opp!

Duff and the Charm City Cakes team in Boston were doing a fire engine that night for a local benefit.  It seemed a "God-moment."  Inspiration filled the room with the sound of angels.  I would create for Hunter Magoo a fire truck cake.

By the end of the show I was freaked out.  The one they had done was so detailed, took so many hours and people that I was afraid to try.  But Stormie said we could, so we did.  Thank goodness my husband helped! 

It was nothing like Duff's, and in fact, if you looked at it head-on from the front, it looked like it was squealing into an emergency scene in a cartoonish way.  Here is what Stormie and I came up with: 4 Duncan Hines Chocolate Butter Cake mixes (made with real butter) to which I added pudding, a simple syrup moistening, and filled with creamy chocolate fudge.  The finished size was 6"w x 23 1/2"l x maybe 7 1/2" high.

We used about 10 pounds of almond-infused buttercream and 3 containers of red food color (2 gel by Wilton, 1 squeezee bottle because I feared it wasn't red enough).  We made hoses out of the moldable pastillage (which dries harder than the Rocky Mountains).  The tires were Entemann's chocolate cake donuts.  The "lights" were M & Ms, and Dots.

I made a royal icing 3-D laddar, but it was too delicate and kept breaking.  So we just piped on the rest of the decorations.  It was heavier than a heart attack.  We placed the actual cake on raised, foil-covered masonite, cut to size.  We displayed the whole on a scrap of particle board that we painted black to resemble a black-top parking lot, and then I painted yellow "parking lines" on it.  This "inspiration" happened literally less than an hour before leaving the house.  If I'd had it sooner, I'd have made pastillage "cement" parking barriers and some green scaping with icing and tinted sugar.  There also would have been a molded fire hydrant and a Dalmation or two.

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Hunter got the chocolate fire truck cake he wanted and I think he liked it because his mom told me that yesterday after his nap, she walked in to find him naked on the kitchen table, quietly and contentedly eating leftover cake like, "This is the life."

Cake questions?…Jeanie

NOTE:  Hunter is peering over the table on the top photo. 

Rock-star’s Guitar Cake

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Jovan got the idea to do a big party for Rocky with a full-size replica of one of his guitars.  Stormie sneaked into his office and traced his favorite, a Gibson electric, and here is what we came up with: a traditional white cake (4 Duncan Hine's mixes, augmented) with strawberry moistening syrup, strawberry filling and buttercream icing. 

We made the knobs and gadgets from pastillage, which is technically edible, but would break your teeth if you really tried to eat it.  The pick guard was tinted white chocolate.  We decided to just create the "neck" of the guitar (which I kept calling the "leg" or the "arm" and any number of other body parts because I am a dork) from 3 layers of foam core with icing.

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The guitar cakes we saw on the internet generally had piped icing "strings," but they usually looked wiggly and crooked so we opted for some gold-toned cord from Stormie's jewelry-making supplies, which was cute, but couldn't be pulled taut.  This aggravated Stormie to no end.  I kept saying, "It's just a cake."  She kept saying, "This is not just a cake."  I think she may have actually wanted Rocky to be able to play the cake?

Questions?…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF: I see a lot of strange cakes in my future.  I don't even bake!?!?

Photos: the finished product, note the framed photo of Rocky playing the guitar; Rocky checking out the work on it; Rocky and his very proud father, Dave

Bryan, you’re funny

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Ok, ok – I am posting this comment I received about my last post from my friend, Bryan Younger.  His comments are always funny, but we have an ongoing dialogue about tomatoes because he hates them – and because of this I wonder, "Does God really want me to be his friend???"

Bryan's words:

Jeanie, consider this an intervention. You seem to have an addiction to the dreaded tomato, or, " Red Balls " as they're known on the street. First you write practically a sonnet to tomatoes.(see here) Then you forget to blog for a week because you have a tomato sandwich (see here).

Now, you're concentrating them. What happens when you run out? Maybe sneak a  little tomato juice? When thats not enough, maybe eating tomato paste out of a can with a spoon or squirting ketchup directly into your mouth. Please seek help before you're really "Red Balling" and start stealing ketchup packets from McDonalds. Jeanie we love you and are praying for you. 

Then Bryan ever so kindly pointed me to a website about tomato addictions.  Nice.

It's time for lunch.  Guess what I am having…Jeanie

NOTE:  Bryan and his wife Pearl (my dear, dear friend who loves tomatoes, too) just started a blog!  Check it out: http://bryanyounger.wordpress.com/

Slow-roasted intensity

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This was a good year for tomatoes. 

As the nights are cooling and the days are getting shorter, the overgrown three tomato plants in my backyard are heavily-laden, madly producing fruit as a last, desperate attempt to pro-create and leave plenty of seed behind.  If I am attentive and cover the plants diligently as cold weather and snow arrive (October is often snowier in intermittent dumps in Colorado than in December), I could still be eating tomatoes at Thanksgiving time.  We've done it before.  They aren't like mid-summer eatings: sweet and juicy and huge, but rather make good Fried Green slices and mock-apple pie.

But right now, as summer has morphed into a picture perfect Autumn with cool mornings and crisp nights, bright sunlight and north winds – there is an abundance.  By now, we've worn people out with gifts of tomato and have to make several trips to carry in the daily harvest.  So right now is the perfect time to slow-roast these beauties into rich, intensified bolts of flavor for use in millions of other ways.

At the hospital for the annual "m" a week ago or so, I picked up a special fall issue of a gourmet magazine and tried their recipe for roasted tomatoes.  I have done it twice now and will probably use almost all of the rest of the '07 bounty this way:

  • 350-degree oven
  • Spritz the bottom of 2 glass cake pans with non-stick spray (olive-oil flavored, if you have it)
  • Cut medium to large sized tomatoes in half on the hemisphere and place them, cut side up, in the pan.  They should be touching and "crowded" in the pan.  It took 12-15 tomatoes for me to fill 2 glass cake pans. 
  • Drizzle generously with olive oil.  All slices should get some!
  • Sprinkle about 2 tablespoons of Balsamic vinegar per pan over the top.
  • Sprinkle 1 tablespoon per pan with dry Italian seasoning or oregano or basil to your liking
  • Generous salt and pepper, garlic salt is good here.
  • Yesterday, I threw in whole cloves of garlic for the roasting, too
  • Set your timer for 2 1/2 hours.  When it goes off, leave them in the hot oven for at least another 1/2 hour.
  • Keep all drippings for storing your roasted tomatoes

Your house will smell like heaven.  When you scoop a bite into your mouth, your tastebuds will swell as if liquid sun filled with the flavor of a thousand summer tomatoes  just dropped on your tongue.

The tomatoes cook down from 12-15 nice-sized fruit to a sandwich-bag full of menu potential.

You can eat them just as they are – hot and dripping with flavor (for the bold and courageous only) or toss them with hot pasta and freshly grated parmesan.  You can use it as a Bruschetta spread or smear it onto a pizza crust instead of sauce and anything you put over the top will be the better for it.  Yesterday I loaded the top of a rising-not-yet-baked homemade foccacia bread with the tomato and oil mixture – divine!  They would light up an antipasto platter making the other ingredients seem anemic by comparison and I have heard they are good in a cold pasta salad, but mine haven't made it that far, yet.

The photo above, swiped off the internet, doesn't really represent how mine look – turning black at the edges near the end of the roasting: carmelizing…tantalizing…enthralling…

Don't can them ever.  Don't freeze them yet.  Roast them, my friends.  For the love of the tomato, roast them!

Jeanie, a tomato lover…

ODD OBSERVATION: It occurs to me that a woman at the halfway mark is much like a roasted tomato: the red is deeper, more multi-dimensional, the original fruit is somewhat of a memory, but she is richer in taste and fragrance. She adds more to every dish and is better preserved for the future.

NOTE TO SELF:  It is ok to be a roasted tomato. 

 From Amy Grant's upcoming book, Mosaic, "The beauty of being in the middle of life is the vantage point it provides…Even from here I can see growing old is not for the cowardly." p.117  (www.amygrant.com)

Autumn

It's fall again.  And again the leaves blowing around at the top of my blog seem appropriate, although at 47 and gaining speed on the old timeline, I think autumn represents well, the time of life in which I currently find myself.

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I got to spend the weekend at the Powers family cabin near Peaceful Valley in the Rocky Mountains (thank-you! thank-you! thank-you!).  For over 11 hours on Saturday, I sat near the rushing river tumbling down boulders and powering it's way through fallen branches and sharp rocks in dappled sunlight that warmed my skin while the gentlest of breezes brought cool refreshment.  I read and sang and thought and rested and listened and wondered and cried and smiled and prayed.  In that setting, you cannot help but be drawn into spontaneous conversations with God.  The evergreens, greatly varied in their hues, all strong and tall were punctuated by Aspens I am certain I could actually see changing color before my eyes – a bit more colorful hour by hour.  The underbrush, having gotten an earlier start is already deep oranges and reds, even browns and purples.  Brilliant berries are being found out by small birds which, having swiped a treasure as such from the bush quickly flies to a needle-rich pine branch nearby and looks for all the world as if I have just opened a Christmas card.

It is autumn.  The leaves "down below" will change soon enough and drop, but instead of getting to enjoy the process, our Home Owner's Associations will make sure we dispose of them in short order.  No letting the kids tumble in them or burning them in a chilly-night bonfire.

As quickly restored as I found myself in a garden only God could have created, I see that in suburbia, we have stripped away much of what feeds our minds, stills the panic, and quiets the emotion of the day.

It's fall again.  The summer is past.  Rich, ripe beauty is at hand, but let's be careful not to miss it.

I wax melancholy today.  Yet, I pray for anyone who wanders by to be blessed with great color and delight in this season of your life – whatever it may hold. 

"Oh! May the God of green-hope fill you up with joy, fill you up with peace, so that your believing-lives, filled with the life-giving energy of the Holy Spirit, will brim over with hope!" (That's in The Message, Romans 15)…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF: Keep meeting Him in the garden. 

What to do with the huge, brick-bat zucchini on your counter

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OK – so it's one of 2 things: you actually ARE guilt-ridden and cannot throw away the out-of-control, gargantuan zucchini the neighbors brought over OR you let things get out of your control in the backyard garden.

Whatever the case may be, and admittedly due to the fact that I've been guilty of both of the above scenarios, I developed a very good church-potluck-award-winning recipe to use those mammoth things up.  It's time.  Take courage – we ARE going to get your kitchen counter space freed back up.  This works for zucchini and those straight-necked yellow squash when they are too big to be beautifully and tastefully grilled as baby fruit (see previous zucchini post).

Jeanie's Zucchini Casserole

  • 4 cups chopped zucchini (get rid of the seeds, but keep the peel or not, as you desire)
  • 1 medium onion, chopped
  • salt and pepper to taste
  • 1 teaspoon oregano
  • 1 tablespoon of sage or poultry seasoning (or more, to your taste)
  • 1 cup Bisquick Baking Mix
  • 3 eggs
  • 1/2 cup cooking oil (I like canola)
  • 3 teaspoons chicken bouillion dissolved on 2 tablespoons of hot water
  • 1/2 cup grated cheese, optional (if your family has to have cheese on everything – just sprinkle this over the top)

Toss the first 6 ingredients together and place into an buttered baking dish.  Then beat the eggs, the dissolved bouillion and oil and pour over the zucchini mixture.

Bake uncovered at 350-degrees for 40 minutes.  It will be like a lovely bread stuffing.  Enjoy.

Be blessed!  Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF:  I am found out.  Bake some for Dave.  *sigh…

I think you know where I’ve been

I've had some inquiries.  People have said to me, "For a week you wouldn't quit writing, but now you've gone silent.  What gives?"  I think you know.

I've been standing at my kitchen counter dipping fresh, hot, crunchy-crusted, steamy-centered foccacia in flavor-infused extra virgin olive oil, and filling my mouth alternately with that and thick slices of garden beefsteak tomatoes and letting the juice drip down my face.

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Bigger is Not Always Better

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When your neighbor or relative or so-called friend brings you a gigantic zucchini squash as a gift from their garden, don't be deceived.  They don't like you at all.  Zucchini and staight-necked squash from the garden should be small, baby fruit: sliced on the diagonal, tossed in extra-virgin olive oil, sprinkled with Mrs. Dash and some garlic powder and then grilled.  It's both sweet and savory.  It is a venture into the succulent world of some of God's best creations. It is heaven exploding on your tastebuds, actually nourishing your bones. 

I know, I know – you think you don't like zucchini and yellow squash.  That is just a lie from the Devil that you have chosen to believe.  It is also the fault of the people pawning those big, green, vegetable brick-bats off on you.

If some one brings you one of those out-of-control giant zucchini's, they just didn't want to take the time to shred it into oblivion for a zucchini casserole or something themselves.  They looked at it, thought to themselves: What the heck am I suppose to do with this monstrosity?  And decided to make it YOUR problem, knowing you'll feel complete guilt and indebtedness and be forced to use it…somehow.

Seriously, people, get past the guilt and "share" it with some one else!…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF:  Watch those plants carefully.  Think about who I'd want to give it to if one should get out of control.  Hmmmmm….who last wronged me?

Today – Cucumber Sandwiches?

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Tiny, little cukes swelled into full-grown fruit while I was away.  I haven't had time to google for a good ice-box pickle recipe or two yet, but, nonetheless – here they are, in all their glory…piles of them. (I want nothing to do with canning, but if anyone knows a good brine or two?…)

Red & White Salad, a favorite of my dad's: cukes, tomatoes, sweet onions in a dressing from extra-virgin-olive-oil and cider vinegar and a Hidden Valley Italian Dressing Mix.  Best in August and early September.

Cucumber Sandwiches: Thick slices of garden-grown cucumbers on top of those mini, cocktail-rye slices that have been slathered in a Hidden Valley Ranch-seasoned cream cheese and sprinkled with the lighest hint of garlic salt.  Mmmmm. 

Does all bountiful home-gardener produce have its very own sandwich recipe, I wonder?

The Hidden Valley people seem to have their finger in the pulse of the cucumber-heavy garden.

Out to the garden…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF:  Would right now be a good time to try the 10-day "Daniel diet" of only water and vegetables?  Is it still a Daniel diet if I add in grilled chicken breast or steak?  Think on this…