Please, say it with Italian flare ~ use your hands for passion.
Pomodoro {pomo d’oro} apple of gold. It’s a noun. It means tomato. *big smile :)
Pomodori. Tomato, but plural.
Pomodorino. Cherry tomato.
Pomodorata. Tomato throwing. I can’t decide if I MUST go to Spain to experience this one day? Or if I should never because to see so many tomatoes not eaten (and me being pelted by them) would be heart-breaking…which is it?
Bruschetta a la Pomodoro! Perhaps even more delicious the next day.
Who will buy this beautiful morningand put it in a box for me?So I can see it at my leisure,whenever things go wrong.And I can keep it as a treasureto last my whole life long?”
I failed my children in baby-booking. I did. I just stunk at it. Their entire lives, the guilt of the knowledge that I had not filled out the dates on the teeth-cutting-arrival charts gnawed at me relentlessly. Pages with the words paste photohere nakedly jeered at me, taunting my inability to create a wondrously meaningful book for posterity.
It wasn’t that I didn’t have photos to paste. It wasn’t that I didn’t delight at the clink of the spoon on a newly-emerged tooth or want to remember every single, tiny moment of their first days. I saved everything for each of my children from the second I knew they were coming. It was almost a sickness, induced, I fear, by having a dad who saved nothing. We took untold thousands of photos of these 5 incredible children.They were also often undeveloped for a really long time.
But somehow, I just didn’t do well at putting things in their books. I think my perfectionistic tendencies (aka my all-or-nothing sickness) interfered.
“Today I must focus entirely on the baby-book and fill in each line and glue the proper photos as directed,” was my heart’s desire, but didn’t happen, couldn’t happen, because life was happening. When you are deeply involved in your husband’s ministry, right at his side AND almost annually producing a new human being, leisure time to cut and paste and record gets put on the back burner – or in my case, books safely tucked into their original boxes, high on a closet shelf…{read the whole post HERE}
Life speeds up as we slow down
My really good friend {we’ll call her Amy Jo} is facing the end-of-an-era with her baby girl. Healthy babies grow and it is good, but suddenly, as a mommy, you realize – “Oh, we’ll never be here again. Something I have treasured in this season is over and it is good and it is a sign of health and blessing, but – I wasn’t ready to move on. I will miss this.” It goes fast!
Like one day you can pick your child up and twirl them around and then one day, they are too big for that. But you didn’t know that was over…
A group of us were discussing this, via social media, at dinner and through some comments here on the blog and another friend {let’s call her Heather ;) } lamented not keeping up with recording the life moments and the journals and records of her family as time is speeding by and they are growing up. We feel like we let them down by not having kept a detailed record of life. The moments rush by.
I totally understood. Why not more photos and why did we not write down every cute thing all of our kids said and why didn’t we actually journal the stories of our family regularly? We can all feel that. But I was totally reminded, in that moment of empathy seasoned with a dash of regret, of a scripture in Luke 2. The Bible says of Mary, as she watched Jesus grow:
“And Mary kept these things and pondered them in her heart.”
No missing pages. No “you-big-fat-journal-failure-you!” No. Everything is there, written in our hearts. We remember our babies as clear as a bell, their laughter, their crinkly-nosed smiles, watching their interactions and knowing what they were destined to become. How could we have captured all that with mere words, anyway?
See? It’s all right there, in your heart. You’ll still have the stories to tell and the legacy to leave. Don’t worry. :)
When I was a little girl, I hated cooked carrots. They were the orange, bane-filled mush of my nightmares. I loved the roast beef and potatoes they usually came with (I have never met a potato I didn’t love), but when my plate got down to the globs of orange, the gagging began. My parents wouldcoax…or yell at me to eat them. I’d gag them down, eyes tearing up, gulping big swallows of milk afterwards to try to erase the memory. I’d lose my breath, I’d hem, I’d haw. I’d gag some more.
One night, when I was about 8, the humongous pile of carrots on plate was just sitting there getting cold and I asked to be excused, unable to bear the thought of eating them. But my dad decreed that I would eat. every. bite. :) We all have one of these stories, don’t we?
I sat and looked at them. They looked back at me. I begged them to taste good and somehow just go down. I’d take a bite and they’d suddenly swell to this huge mouthful of putridness and the yuk would begin and I’d cry, calling out to God to deliver me, help me, pleeeeeeease. Dinner had started at 5 pm on the dot, like always. At 9:55 pm, alone in the cold, dark kitchen, with my cold dark plate of carrots – my mom finally released me to go to bed for school. I hung my head in shame. I wasn’t being rebellious not eating them, I just really thought they were that horrible.
The Redemption of the Carrot
Fast forward to a snow day when I was 11. There was nothing to do and so I pulled out the Better Homes and Gardens Cookbook for Kids, late 1950s edition. I was determined to cook something for fun. But we didn’t have all the ingredients for any of the recipes – nothing, except one…carrots. Cooked carrots. Because we had the carrots, we had the honey and we had the butter.
Intrigued, I stared at the picture in the cookbook for a long time. The carrots had been cut into very long, skinny strips, “shoestrings,” and the butter was melting over them all shiny and bright. I stared and my mouth started to water. I pondered…I figured I’d give it a go.
My mom came in and asked what I was doing.
“Cooking carrots.”
“You don’t like carrots,” she reminded me.
“I’ll like these, ” I told her, by faith.
So I cut them into shoestrings. And I simmered them with a teaspoon of raw honey. Then I plated them in a pretty pile, all the strips going the same direction and put a big pat of butter on them just like the picture, a sprinkle of salt and pepper and ~ GLORIOUS! I loved them. I understood them, finally. I got what they were there to give me: nourishment and deliciousness. They weren’t overcooked and later I learned they were so sweet they didn’t need the honey. But I fell head-over-heels for my carrots on the spot and my mom was thoroughly nonplussed.
What does this have to do with Jamie Oliver?
Well-it’s his zeal. He believes it needs to start in the home, that the home is where we should begin to pass on cooking again – for the health and welfare of generations to come. Because the last several generations have increasingly gone to processed, convenience foods and eating out – a lot! And it is literally killing us, killing our children. And he says when you learn to cook it yourself, you love it.
It was true for me. With carrots, people!
Exponential power to change the future for the next generation is in our hands~ By good-old-fashioned home-cooking!
“Passing it on is a philosophy for me it’s quite romantic, but it’s about: If one person teaches three people how to cook something and they teach three of their mates, that only has to repeat itself 25 times and that’s the whole population of America.
Romantic? Yes, but most importantly it’s about trying to get you to realize that every one of your individual efforts makes a difference.” -Jamie Oliver
So, this is a call-out to the grandmas and grandpas out there and to the mommies and daddies for that matter: drag out the family recipe books, take the kids to the store to buy fresh ingredients, and show them how to cook.
I’m guilty. I didn’t teach my kids to cook like I should have, but was lucky they are smart enough to have pursued it and are good at it. But it’s not too late and it’s a chance to pass on heritage and family stories, too.
And hey – I like this organization {The Family Dinner Project}, “A start-up grassroots movement of food, fun and conversation about things that matter.”
But we all have to take back our food. I’m on a kick because of gardening-and eating what you grow…Eat fresh, eat local (when possible – I mean, I have to get my oranges from Florida, people), and grow your own, as much as possible-try it!
My husband was raised on casseroles. Any meat you could scramble and stir in some cans of Campbell’s Soup and top with Tater Tots, that was supper. My family was meat and potatoes. We had a meat (breaded and fried pork chops or breaded and fried chicken or fried hamburgers) with potatoes (you guessed it-usually fried) and a veggie…out of a can.
Our parents had been sold post-war convenience and were doing the best they could to put healthy meals on the table-quickly . And by sheer convenience they were less healthy, but the one thing they got right was cooking at home day in and day out, feeding their families meals seasoned with love, and eating around the table nightly, and if you were really blessed: good talk.
Dave and I provided our kids with frozen veggies and thought we were doing pretty well, better. But we failed with TOO MUCH eating out! No bueno!
“We’ve got to put back what’s been lost.” -Jamie Oliver, Ted Talks, Chew on This!
It’s romantic and do-able. Cooking more at home for life.
Tonight: Some one is bringing the salad, some one else the soup and yet another, the dessert. My part: Italian-bread BLTs (whole grain for those who feel less guilty eating it that way, thought if you’re eating a bunch of bacon, I say: go all in), heavy on the B and the T. And Bruschetta a la Pomodoro and Chiabatta w/Walnut~Basil Pesto. All easy. All garden-fresh.
***Remember to keep on praying for those who have lost so much in the flooding here in Colorado. They are TOTALLY exempt from this post. Volunteer to help in the clean-up; donate if you can! www.convoyofhope.org
The last time I flew there were signs and notices all over about the new laws for carry-ons. And basically no one {NO ONE} cared one-iota.
Plus which when they brought a personal item plus TWO carry-ons anyway, they were “rewarded” with early boarding or upgraded by being willing to “gate-check” their extra bags. H-e-l-l-o??? Where is the justice for us law-keepers?
It never ceases to amaze me how much people will push the carry-on envelope when flying. I have seen business men shoving an entire living room furniture set into the overhead compartment. Ok, so maybe I exaggerate.
Nonetheless, this is the L A W, people!
One bag. One personal item.
Now here is the deal. The personal item can be a purse. Or a briefcase. Or a laptop computer because you cannot check a computer. It can be a diaper bag or any item similar in size to the aforementioned items. It CANNOT be a purse and a laptop and a briefcase and a diaper bag. The one personal item must fit under the seat in front of you and not obstruct the 3 1/2-inch space I might need to crawl over you to get to the “powder room.” Do you get it now?
This is what the American Airlines site shows: one small carry-on plus one smaller personal item. Look up the word small…
The luggage you may have for the overhead compartment? The ONE piece? It may not exceed 45 linear inches in combined length, width and height, including any handles and wheels – INCLUDING handles and wheels, doggone-it!
Scale back on the carry-ons, people, for the LOVE!
Many times in September, we get a little surprise snowfall, but not usually much. Though I do remember the last day of summer one year, just getting a huge dump and ruining my garden since it had been so beautiful and the snow was unexpected. But September in Colorado is really usually always one of the most beautiful months: sunny, warm days – cooler nights, clear skies. Basically-lovely.
This rainfall ~ Devastating! This from the news accounts on 9.13.13
The National Weather Service issued constantly-updated versions of a local area forecast, and one at 9:41 a.m. MDT reported a dire warning:
MAJOR FLOODING/FLASH FLOODING EVENT UNDERWAY AT THIS TIME WITH BIBLICAL RAINFALL AMOUNTS REPORTED IN MANY AREAS IN/NEAR THE FOOTHILLS
There’s no scientific definition of “biblical” but the flooding has been unlike anything local residents have ever seen before.
{{Um, we all need Jesus. That is Biblical!}}
So each time the meteorologists do the newscast, they answer the question evereyone wants to know, because we aren’t used to this much rain ever, but we are used to snow:
Well-if this had been snow, how much would it have been?
And we are hearing things like this:
In a 48-hour period Boulder got 15.38″ of rain, according to the news last night, so it would have been more than 15 feet of snow. All at once – Yikes!
The numbers keep rising and rising on the amounts and there is so much confusion and reports of this and reports of that, so for the sake of not getting ahead of ourselves, we’ll use numbers from 3 days ago:
Reported by 7 am 9/13/13
Boulder 15.38″
Thornton 8.47″
Brighton 8.44″
Estes Park 8.23″
Aurora 8.2″
Colorado Springs 8.17″
Lyons 7.65″
Louisville 7.62″
Frederick 7.58″
Longmont 6.72″
If you look at what is normal for the Denver area in a whole year, wow! As this article from the weather channel puts into perspective.
“The average annual precipitation (rain + liquid from melted snow) in Denver is 14.92 inches. That’s over three-quarters of the yearly average precipitation occurring in the span of a day or so!”
What really stinks is, though we are arid and always short on water, we aren’t even allowed to keep it. It still gets routed out of state.
Colorado is in crisis.
So many streets are washed out, roads ruined. A friend of mine lost her home and had to be evacuated by helicopter with the National Guard (after 2 days with no phone, no electric) and where will she go now? Rocky and Jovan will have a lot of re-building to do. My niece and great nieces are in Estes Park, where there is only one way in or out for emergency use only. We lost contact with them when the whole city was without landline or cell service for 2 days. This is a crazy thing.
If it had been snow, it just would have been a slow-motion crisis. One good thing, I guess.
One four-pack of clearance 20″ x 20″ napkins becomes two throw pillows.
Nice napkins, sturdy cotton, with a smooth finish, but bark-cloth-like quality + 2 standard pillow forms (purchased on clearance a few years back for $2.48 each = 2 pillows in a pattern I can live with for awhile for less than 5-dollars-per-pillow. :)
I needed something charcoal on my family room couches to sort of re-distribute some of my Urbane-Bronze wall color ’round about. I like the fabrics in the Threshold line at Target, especially on clearance! Ta-da!
A sweet, really sweet wedding, so joyous, so full of love.
A wedding I will always recall with great joy. I shared a little about it last week, but my favorite part was when the bride and groom served communion to all their guests. I had never seen that done before or since. The song was, “I Pour My Love on You.” It was amazing.
Like oil upon your feet ~ Like wine for you to drink
Like water from my heart ~ I pour my love on you
If praise is like perfume ~ I’ll lavish mine on you
Till every drop is gone ~ I’ll pour my love on you
I think the fact that you not only speak on dating at youth conferences, but also still {actually date} is a really good thing.
And now your love is displayed in and through your sons.
And oh, how I love those boys, a double scoop of wonder and delight, with kisses sprinkled freely! You’re not only good friends and lovers, but amazing parents, too.
Hunter’s first day of 3rd grade
It’s beautiful~your love and marriage. Many more happy years to come! Love you, my sweets!
Love grows more tremendously full, swift, poignant, as the years multiply. ~Zane Grey
…and you not only haven’t aged in the 12+ years we’ve known you, you may actually be getting younger. :)
But throughout the course of these years and the love that abides and the joy we have that you swept Stephanie off her feet so many years ago (and keep wooing her even now) and how that love has grown rather than diminished even in these days of love so easily let-go and then to see you father so beautifully and carefully the three, well, these things show us that while you look as young as an early summer day, you are indeed growing in wisdom and becoming a man of influence to be admired and emulated.
Weren’t we the lucky ones that God sent you our way? What a blessing you have been, time and again. What a whole new slant you brought with you that has challenged us and grown us and taught us all some new things along the way. How perfect that you were born in Indiana and Stephanie was born there, too, not far away and so you had some common roots, some like values and God was snickering in heaven that no matter which direction you went, and which direction she would go, you’d run right into each other and be a young man destined to be one of us, and us, part of you!!! So fortuitous, so divine.
We thank God for this.
I was pondering the preposterous story of Noah the other day, how one quiet guy (I assume he was quiet, for he quickly got to work on the project God had given him rather than spending time in organizational meetings or trying to gather a crowd to help) caught God’s eye.
But Noah found favor in the eyes of the Lord. (Genesis 6).
And could anyone look at the life you are leading, see the adoration in the eyes of your children for their beloved daddy and the passion with which Stephanie loves you and has become even more dazzlingly beautiful because of and by your love for her, and not know you have found favor? Could anyone doubt that favor when Stephanie’s brothers and sisters look to you for guidance on all things technical, or musically related or raising children, or graphics and web design and on and on (and we won’t even delve in to what the in-law-parents need from you!), and you are seen as a trustworthy and fair and true and honest and faithful man?
Noah found favor in the eyes of the Lord.
So, yes. I see the favor of God on you, His smile on your life. Mine, too. Which doesn’t mean nearly so much, but to have your mother-in-law feel as much love and gratitude as I do, well, not everyone in the world can say they have that! :)
He was a righteous man.
Here are 5 things I like about you
You like interesting food and are not afraid to try new things. And you are teaching your children to like new things – that is an incredible feat in this day and age!
You don’t mind being the occasional male model for Stephanie’s website and even though you aren’t one of those guys who seems to think a lot about his hair products or the latest trends, you do pull off looking like the guys they hire and pay lots of $$ to during fashion week in New York. You might wanna look in to that. Side job.
You are teaching my grandchildren to play music. They always surprise me when they display their talents. Then I’m like, “Oh, yea – they are Stephanie and Tristan’s kids.” Of course!
That you keep developing your craft. I love that you wanted a drum lesson from another amazing drummer when we know you are the most amazing drummer we already know.
You have asked me for landscaping and gardening advice. Aaaaaaawwww….thank-you. I can never imagine that I have much to offer, but thank-you for asking.
He was blameless among the people of his time.
So, I wanted to say I bless you, on the occasion of your 33rd birthday (a few days ago, now). I bless you with continued favor and the smile of God on your life. I pray for increased wisdom and insight into your life as a father and husband. I pray your insight into parenting grows as quickly as the kids are growing. I pray for your business to be increased and for you to be presented with wide, open spaces of time to pursue music and creativity and for unbelievable opportunities (things you didn’t even know possible) to present themselves to you in short order! I am asking God to answer your prayers and send you help when you call and to establish the work of your hands and for all you have sown to become abundance, fruitfulness and plenty right away! I pray this year will be like no other and a surprise and a blessing and a reward for all your steady steps and hard work through the years. Because He does reward those who diligently seek Him!
He walked faithfully with God.
It seems a little crazy and maybe flood-related to be talking about Noah while all of Colorado is battling flash-flooding and an over-abundance of rain, but I had been pondering this and making notes about it last week – while it was still sizzling hot and wearisome. But that is how it is – one foot in front of the other, preparedness, faithful in the little things, day in and day out: these are the things that make you the very cool, trustworthy man you are. Noah built when others weren’t. He built when it seemed futile. He built before it seemed needed…would it ever be needed?
Noah found favor in the eyes of the Lord.
You’re the blessed kind of person that people will always look to when the flood waters rise because they’ll know you have God’s favor and they’ll know you were looking ahead and making ready. I admire you for it.
I thank God for you. I celebrate your life and all the good things to come. You have my love and deep respect. {mom}
But finally yesterday afternoon, a cool breeze started blowing and an amazing real-life, puddle-making rain fell in gushes. It was wonderful! Here I sit again, listening to thunder roll while lightning flashes and the rain is pouring-pouring-pouring, almost too much for my little gardens to contain, but again n the morning, how they’ll shine.
Ten years ago this week we celebrated the joyous marriage ceremony of Dave & Tara (Rhoades) Powers with a morning snow-spit, followed by a beautiful, sunny day that rose to brilliance shining through the late afternoon stained glass windows at the church, ending in a brisk, chilly evening with an outdoor marriage feast. You had to dance if you wanted to stay warm. :)
Colorado can be that way. I have lost my tomatoes to a freeze on the last day of summer, and I have harvested the last of my tomatoes the week of Thanksgiving. In the Mile Hi City, you just never know!
So, in good faith and lots of hope, I have planted some brand new zucchini and squash seedlings, even though they are quite tender. It really isn’t likely that I’ll get anything from them, but on the outside chance that these deep, soaking rains get followed by some gorgeous sunshine, even these tender plants may thrive.
True, zucchini and straightneck squash are tenders, meant for summer only in this northern zone. So besides the summer crops which will still be producing for a while now, God willing and I tend well (things like cucumbers, green beans, spaghetti squash, tomatoes, herbs, various peppers and tomatillos), fall is great time to grow so many other things that will actually thrive in the cooler evening temps.
In fact – here is a short list of why gardening in autumn is so wonderful that even if you didn’t garden this past summer, you can and should go ahead and make a 4 x 4 box (Square-Foot Gardening) and garden this fall!
The growing season will be short, so the time investment isn’t a concern and you probably won’t be on an extended vacation because the kids are back in school. There went those excuses.
If you’re planning to learn to garden in the spring, you’ll get a successful head start now and a few small success will charge you up for spring 2014!
Seeds will germinate pretty quickly right now because there is some warmth in that soil.
The crops will mature more slowly because of the shortening days, which will make it less overwhelming.
My son-in-law Tristan swears my home-grown kale is waaaaaaaay better than any store-bought, even organic. As are almost all homegrown things, really. They don’t always look so perfect and pretty, but they aren’t full of chemicals and pesticides.
My current philosophy: start small, but start!
Here are a few of the things you plant in your fall garden that will keep on feeding your family for a few months:
Kale! Easy to grow and 2 plants this last couple of months just kept producing more and more leaves all summer. I’d give a bag away to one of the kids, 2 days later another bag to a different kid, plus all I needed! I have 4 new kale plants started (2 weeks ago) to keep us going and since it can even withstand a snowstorm or two, I plan on (hope-hope-hope) to have my own kale surrounding my roasted turkey come November. 1 kale plant per 12 x 12″ square. Plant seeds immediately or check the garden centers for seedlings that are established.
Radishes. Plant now. They germinate in a couple of days because of the warmth of the soil, but prefer this cool nights. Word to the wise, only plant 16 radishes per square foot. How many do you actually really eat weekly? Want more? Plant another foot of them next week, and the next. You can plant them safely each week until close to final frost. I’ll keep going until late September for sure.
Lettuces, spinach, mesclun mix, carrots. These germinate quickly in a Dixie-cup for later sowing outside. Fresh salads!
Beets, broccoli, Swiss Chard, cabbages – all great choices, too, if you have seedlings. Our garden centers don’t carry much by this time of year and I didn’t start new ones in July when I should have.
I plan to keep sowing seeds for at least another week. When these rainy afternoons pass and that sun gets blazing hot again, my garden will be bountiful and fruitful even as the leaves start changing colors!
You can’t submit to a personality-lobotomy to gain approval from others. It won’t work. It will be ill-fitting, uncomfortable. Nor should you hate who God created you to be because you don’t always fit in or have experienced pain in your humanness (God knows you’re human, you know). Every single personality type has its strengths and weaknesses.
We just think we’re the oddball.
Meanwhile in two separate conversations on this exact subject, but at the opposite ends of the spectrum (self-hatred vs people-pleasing), the movie line below still cracks me up.
Preface: John Cusack is quite possibly the most underrated actor in America today. And by underrated, I just mean he should be paid more per movie than – almost any other actor -alive -anywhere. Because in my book (and among really intelligent people the world over, I am sure) he is just awesome! So try to imagine him (or watch the movie)…
From Must Love Dogs (2007)…John Cusack’s character, Jake, has hand-crafted a boat using time-honored skills and much work and is speaking to a possible buyer…
Boat Guy: Man, this is absolutely gorgeous. I love this. I can’t believe you built it yourself.
JAKE: Yeah, handcrafted. Hand-carved. I hope you’ll find that it’s more than a boat. It’s a time machine.
Boat Guy: I love it. I want it. I’ll take it.
JAKE: Great. Did you race a lot in college?
Boat Guy: I don’t plan to race it. Could you cut it in half for me?
JAKE: Excuse me?
Boat Guy: Yeah, cut it in half lengthwise. I think it would be easier to mount on the wall that way.
JAKE: You want to mount the boat?
Boat Guy: Yeah. I thought I’d put it in the den. It’d look great above my big screen.
JAKE: You know, I think maybe you should go to IKEA and buy a canoe. It’s not for sale in that way.
Boat Guy (to Jake’s friend): He’s kidding, right?
Jake’s friend: Wouldn’t that be nice.
JAKE: I’ve had this dream that it’ll end up wet. It’s just not for sale in that way at this time. Ever, really.
Boat Guy: Okay. Well, if you change your mind, I really do want it.
JAKE: Yeah, if I change my personality, I’ll let you know what I become.
Don’t try to change your personality. But you can work on renewing your mind. Romans 12.2…then you’ll be the best version of you, the one God had in mind when He created you. That will be comfortable skin to be in!