You can’t submit to a personality-lobotomy to gain approval from others.  It won’t work. It will be ill-fitting, uncomfortable.  Nor should you hate who God created you to be because you don’t always fit in or have experienced pain in your humanness (God knows you’re human, you know).  Every single personality type has its strengths and weaknesses.

We just think we’re the oddball.

Meanwhile in two separate conversations on this exact subject, but at the opposite ends of the spectrum (self-hatred vs people-pleasing), the movie line below still cracks me up.

Preface: John Cusack is quite possibly the most underrated actor in America today.  And by underrated, I just mean he should be paid more per movie than  – almost any other actor -alive -anywhere.  Because in my book (and among really intelligent people the world over, I am sure) he is just awesome!  So try to imagine him (or watch the movie)…

From Must Love Dogs (2007)…John Cusack’s character, Jake, has hand-crafted a boat using time-honored skills and much work and is speaking to a possible buyer…

JAKE: Yeah, if I change my personality, I’ll let you know what I become.

Don’t try to change your personality.  But you can work on renewing your mind.  Romans 12.2…then you’ll be the best version of you, the one God had in mind when He created you.  That will be comfortable skin to be in!